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Sexual Expression and Enneagram Type FIVE (The Observer)

Date Mon, 4/19/2021
Location Online - register to receive the event link.
Time 6:30 - 8:30pm Mountain Time

Does your Enneagram type follow you to the bedroom? Yes, it does!

INNER BELIEF of average FIVEs- “Being detached emotionally and physically is how I feel safe, and even superior – I’m not a slave to my emotions and desires” (Ann Gadd).

At their best Type FIVEs are visionaries, open-minded, and have extraordinary insight and concentration. At their worst they become reclusive and isolated from reality.



Photo is Anthonly Hopkins who is likely a FIVE in real life.


We will examine the full spectrum of SEXUAL EXPRESSION of Type FIVE:

  • Disintegration (Mimic)
  • Challenges
  • Levels of Health
  • Tips and Tricks
  • Growth
  • Gifts


    • Sexual
    • Social
    • Self-Preservation
    • Energetic
    • Sensual
    • Sexual
    • Kinky
    • Shapeshifter

♥ Sexual passion doesn't have to wane as you spend more years with your partner!
♥ Your sexual vibrancy can increase even if you are single or celibate or resting!

"Sexual incompatibility" can be transformed into INTIMACY when we have greater understanding and appreciation of ourselves, and of our partner.

This is part of our INTIMACY SERIES which addresses how the Enneagram can be valuable to understanding love, intimacy, and sexuality. We are starting with TWO and ending with ONE.

Group leader Paul Paiva will be joined by Shani Jones to co-facilitate this discussion.
BIO of Co-Facilitator Shani Jones
Shani has been an Enneagram enthusiast since beginning her journey of self-discovery as a Master of Divinity student which became the foundation for doing pastoral counseling with couples and individuals in all life situations. Among her passions is 'companioning' individuals & couples using the Enneagram, and working particularly with formerly incarcerated individuals doing self-discovery; she is on the leadership team for the Enneagram Prison Project in Colorado. Her masters in public health and background as a nurse and health educator positioned her for teaching human sexuality and health/relationship topics at the University of Northern Colorado and the University of St. Thomas in St. Paul. Shani is certified in the Jerome Wagner school of Enneagram studies.

BIO of Group Leader and Co-Facilitator Paul Paiva
Rev. Paul Paiva, M.Div., M.A., is a devout Feminist Christian who is sex-positive, LGBTQIA-embracing, poly-friendly, and kink-friendly. For 17 years he has taught the Enneagram as a tool for personal growth to couples, individuals, and groups, and has served 8 years on the board of the International Enneagram Association Colorado Chapter, as either board member or associate. He does pre-marital prep for engaged couples, and is a certified intimacy and sexuality coach who teaches the Erotic Blueprints™ to singles and couples who want to ignite their passion, including those affected by religion-induced expectations and shame. He is a former Roman Catholic priest who performs romantic and entertaining wedding ceremonies.  
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ATTENDANCE will be ONLINE via a Zoom link will be sent when you sign up, or email to request the link in advance.

Age 18+ unless accompanied by parent or guardian. You will be asked to turn on your video camera, at least in the beginning, to ensure safety of participants - we want so be sure you are a "real" person.

A special WELCOME to those from afar who may not normally be visiting our group due to distance, which is no longer a barrier!

6:30 Meeting STARTS PROMPTLY. May I suggest joining at 6:20 or 6:25 in case any technical glitches need to be solved in your environment.
AFTER the meeting, we will do some ONLINE SOCIALIZING, so keep your favorite cup of tea, cab, or appetizers nearby!