Sexual Expression and Enneagram Type NINE (the Peacemaker) (Intimacy Series)
Does your Enneagram type follow you to the bedroom? Yes, it does!
INNER BELIEF of average NINEs
"Whatever pleases you works for me. I don’t see a problem. ” (Ann Gadd)"
MOTTO of Average NINEs
"That was great for you, wasn’t it?"
FRUSTRATION of Average NINEs
"I'm happy with the way things are. Why do you keep pressuring me to change the way we have sex? Don't keep asking me what position I like during sex -- I don't have the answers."
HEALTHY sexual expression NINEs
Relaxed and accepting – happy to please (if that makes you happy). They are sensuous and uncomplicated lovers. They can have a wonderful healing quality about them that makes a tough day seem so much better, and their vivid imaginations can add extra spice to sex.
If you have had a challenging experience with an NINE, you will learn about healthy NINE expression!
At their BEST, type NINEs are autonomous and fulfilled, and intensely alive to self and others. They are supportive, healing and have a calming influence on others. At their WORST they fuss about inconsequential issues and can forget their own arousal and needs.
Photo is Netflix characters Cassie Nightingale (Good Witch, 2015-2021) and Kate Mularkey (Firefly Lane, 2021) who play a NINE role, and the late Mister Rogers who exhibited phenomenal healthy NINE energy.
We will examine the full spectrum of SEXUAL EXPRESSION of Type NINE:
- Levels of Health
- Tips and Tricks
- EROTIC BLUEPRINTS™
DID YOU KNOW
♥ Sexual passion doesn't have to wane as you spend more years with your partner!
♥ Your sexual vibrancy can increase even if you are single or celibate or resting!
"Sexual incompatibility" can be transformed into INTIMACY when we have greater understanding and appreciation of ourselves, and of our partner.
Photo is Marge Simpson who plays an agreeable NINE in the show.
This is part of our INTIMACY SERIES which addresses how the Enneagram can be valuable to understanding love, intimacy, and sexuality. We are starting with TWO and ending with ONE.
BIO of Group Leader and Facilitator Paul Paiva
Rev. Paul Paiva, M.Div., M.A., is a devout Feminist Christian who is sex-positive, LGBTQIA-embracing, poly-friendly, and kink-friendly. For 17 years he has taught the Enneagram as a tool for personal growth to couples, individuals, and groups, and has served 8 years on the board of Enneagram Colorado (IEA), and is currently its president. He does couples counseling, and is a certified intimacy and sexuality coach who teaches the Erotic Blueprints™ to singles and couples who want to ignite their passion, including those affected by religion-induced expectations and shame. He is a former Roman Catholic priest who performs romantic and entertaining wedding ceremonies.
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ATTENDANCE will be ONLINE via a Zoom link will be sent when you sign up, or email PaulP@CoCreativeIntimacy.com to request the link in advance.
Age 18+ unless accompanied by parent or guardian. You will be asked to turn on your video camera, at least in the beginning, to ensure safety of participants - we want so be sure you are a "real" person.
A special WELCOME to those from afar who may not normally be visiting our group due to distance, which is no longer a barrier!
6:30 Meeting STARTS PROMPTLY. May I suggest joining at 6:20 or 6:25 in case any technical glitches need to be solved in your environment.
AFTER the meeting, we will do some ONLINE SOCIALIZING, so keep your favorite cup of tea, cab, or appetizers nearby!