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A Cord of Three Strands is Not Easily Broken

  • By: Paul Paiva
  • Published: 2/11/2020

A Cord of Three Strands is Not Easily Broken, Ecclesiastes 4:13

Traditionally, we know this means that a married couple who has God as part of their bond, has a strong marriage.  This is true.

How does a couple develop this bond with God?  The obvious answer is they pray together.  This is true.

In our individual spiritual journeys, we are called to be transparent with God, allowing God to see all our imperfections, our brokenness, our sinful nature.  This humility is necessary so we know to rely on God.  Jesus dying on the cross is a lesson to us - to give up control.  To let go and let God.  This is the Christian Path. 



Orgasms are not merely for pleasure! 

In sexual love, orgasm is a beautiful God-given gift, given not solely for pleasure, but especially for our spiritual growth.  In orgasm, you lose every ounce of control.  Orgasm is a natural sacrament or spiritual gift that unravels our natural human propensity to hide, be inauthentic, lie, cheat, or to be selfish.  

So, definitely pray together to make your marriage bond stronger.  But realize that the journey to having amazing orgasms is also part of the complete journey to strengthen your marriage.   Orgasms teach us to let go.  There are many ways to let go and let God.  Orgasms are the crème de la crème of spiritual gifts for married couples!  Orgasms can teach you to be more transparent, more honest, and more genuine with each other.  Orgasms are part of a healthy Christian marriage!

Therefore, A Cord of Three Strands is Not Easily Broken, when the cords are bonded by sexual passion, which inspires transparency.

WHO is called to INTIMACY?

  • By: Paul Paiva
  • Published: 2/8/2020

WHO is called to INTIMACY? Everyone! Married persons are called to sexual intimacy with their spouse, AND they are called to celibate intimacy with everyone else.

Celibates, resting singles, those who are dating, married persons - we are all called to intimacy with our fellow humans.

Feeling and SAVORING your sexual feelings is the KEY to healthy sexual or celibate intimacy. To repress sexual feelings is to inhibit love.


As Christians we tend to focus on moral perfection. This is a grave error! We should rather be striving for intimacy with all humans. We may [and will] fall short of this mandate, but this is our goal.

The Christian model for intimacy is the Holy Trinity - Father, Son, and Holy Spirit.

Future posts on this page will explore the depths of Trinitarian Intimacy

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